In this episode of “The Art of Living Proactively,” host Tony Winyard invites guest Helle Luxe to share her journey from darkness to light and her seven pillars of joyful living. Helle emphasises the importance of self-love and making choices for oneself. She reflects on her own experiences and offers valuable insights on self-care, meditation, forgiveness, and spreading joy. Helle’s passion for helping others shine and her mission to teach self-nourishment and gratitude shine through in her teachings.
Are you ready to shine your inner light?
Action Steps:
– Start with self-care – give yourself love, nourishment, rest
– Train your mind through focus, gratitude, and manifestation
– Create space through meditation, silence, letting go
– Do at least 3 things daily that bring you joy
– Share your light with others through giving and contribution
Call to Action:
Let Helle’s 7 pillars illuminate your path to living and loving fully!Â
Chapters:
01:09 Intro
02:52 The connection with your name and light?
04:32 You help women around the world?
06:26 Tell us about the 7 pillars
07:35 Meditation training
09:32 What do you do when you get happy news?
10:25 Being comfortable with silence
12:34 How did these 7 elements come together?
14:31 Hard working mums not giving themselves love
15:52 If you don’t programme your kids, society will
18:36 Is the lack of giving to themselves related to the chronic diseases women get?
21:47 What do you mean by “Shine”?
24:33 At school we’re taught English, maths, history, but not love!
26:42 Asking questions is meditative!
28:50 What are the reasons people work with you?
30:51 Do you work internationally?
32:57 What is the secret word to shine more?
34:21 A book that moved Helle
35:28 How to get in contact with Helle
36:41 You’re starting a podcast soon?
37:11 Favourite quote
38:09 Next weeks episode
Guest Bio:
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241 – Helle Luxe
Welcome to a luminous episode of The Art of Living Proactively. I’m your host, Tony Winyard shining a spotlight today on the radiant Helle Luxe. Join us as Helle illuminates her journey from darkness to light and shares her seven pillars of joyful living. And we learn how this beam of sunshine from Norway found her inner glow after major turmoil, nearly eclipsed her world.
Let her shining spirit inspire you to glow from within. Her insights on self-care, meditation, forgiveness and spreading joy are definitely ones not to be missed, and be sure to hit subscribe for more lit up episodes across your favorite podcast platforms or on YouTube. Then do leave us a shining review. I read each one and, if you could share this episode to spread the light, that would be really helpful So now let’s bask in the glow of the one and only Helle Luxe.
[00:01:09] Intro
[00:01:09] Tony Winyard: Welcome to another edition of The Art of Living Proactively podcast, my guest today. and this is the first time we’ve had a Norwegian on the show, it’s, Helle Luxe
[00:01:21] Helle Luxe: yeah. Beautiful. Thank you. Nice to meet you Tony.
[00:01:27] Tony Winyard: We were talking just before we started recording. I lived in Norway for 18 months. Love Norway. It’s a fabulous country. mean, So you are from just outside Oslo did you say?
[00:01:36] Helle Luxe: 20 minutes outside a half island called. So I actually took the boat every day to Oslo, so that was kind of charming. But yeah, I’m a Oslo girl in my heart, basically.
[00:01:48] Tony Winyard: So for anyone listening who maybe has not visited Norway, maybe give them a couple of reasons why they should consider visiting Norway.
[00:01:56] Helle Luxe: Yeah, I thought about it earlier when people are saying, oh, Norway is so beautiful. And I’m like yeah. And then I went to Singapore and I went to, it was this beautiful country too, and I realized that what Norway has, like Singapore is the cleanest, beautiful nature. But we also have the wildness that, for example, Singapore is lacking.
So you have these beautiful mountains the water and this peace, and we have the darkness and we have the light
That mixture of winter and summer and spring and autumn. It’s not that easy to find. Again, in Singapore, it’s the same temperature every day, but here in Norway it’s always changing.
Kind of on a journey by just living here basically.
[00:02:48] Tony Winyard: And you just mentioned lights
[00:02:52] Helle Luxe: Yeah.
[00:02:52] The connection with your name and light?
[00:02:52] Tony Winyard: and with your name. So maybe tell me the connection between light and your name.
[00:02:58] Helle Luxe: Let’s my name is Helle and it means holy and I went to, through this big darkness a couple of years ago, and in that darkness I found the essence of light. And in the essence of light, I decided to change my name to Luxe. but I. I thought that holy light would be very beautiful. So I applied, and now I’m the only one in Norway beside of my kids that are named Luxe. But what happened after I got my name was that I, by coincidence, in a dream. In that kind of meditation dream was told just in my mind that, but your name the same as you always.
The new name is the same that you’ve always been called. And of course, I Googled it, woke up and Googled and it said Helle means a light. So like light the goal is to shine. And that’s why I’m here to hopefully give some inspiration and tools to how people can shine more. And as I said I come from deep darkness in, in life, so, Hopefully I can help people to shine more without needing to go into the dark.
[00:04:32] You help women around the world?
[00:04:32] Tony Winyard: Love the description. So I know that you are a lifestyle advisor, speaker, author, you’re helping women all around the world. So maybe expand on that a little. So for anyone who doesn’t know you,
[00:04:45] Helle Luxe: Yeah. It’s called Lets Shine. That’s my studio online and also in Oslo, I had it for 15 years, and it’s basically training, nutrition, lifestyle, and training and nutrition is, both of them are very essential. We all know we need to take care of our body and we all know that we need to eat healthy. So these tools have been kind of the essential parts in the beginning, but I always knew that lifestyle was important.
And if you think about it in lifestyle, that’s where the magic is because there you have mental strength. There you have meditation training, there you have joy trainings, as I call it, and you have heart training, and there’s one more thing. Yeah, give training. So in lifestyle, there’s the tools you need and most people forget. Because they think it’s enough to work out two or three times per week, physically. But I believe that to shine on a regular basis and to elevate yourself to try more. You need to be able to work out seven aspects, as I just mentioned, seven pillars. So, that’s what I do. I look at what people need or they tell me or they show me. And for example, a woman that is very exhausted after working a lot, I won’t start by sending her to the gym. That makes no sense, but most people or very often think that I need to work out more. That will be the solution, but very seldom it is for the long run.
[00:06:24] Tony Winyard: Right.
[00:06:24] Helle Luxe: So, yeah.
[00:06:26] Tell us about the 7 pillars
[00:06:26] Tony Winyard: So it’ll be interesting to hear more about all seven of those pillars. And the two that I’m particularly interested in are join and give. They sound fascinating. So yeah tell us more about the seven pillars.
[00:06:38] Helle Luxe: Well, the cliche is that I actually found the first pillar. In the end, last year. Last year, it took me 20 years to find these seven pillars. And the first pillar is heart training. It starts with the heart. And this is the first thing people, and that people don’t do this. It’s about giving yourself love.
[00:07:01] Tony Winyard: All
[00:07:02] Helle Luxe: And it, again, so cliche, but if you don’t give to yourself, you have nothing to give. And there you have the give part. So it starts by giving. And after heart training, then you have mental training. We are not at the physical. We are still at now. We are at the mind. You need to feed your mind, so you need to strengthen your mental strength need to be strengthened.
And then you have nutrition training. I call it training because it’s also about the relationship you have with food,
[00:07:34] Tony Winyard: Okay.
[00:07:35] Meditation training
[00:07:35] Helle Luxe: the balance between enjoying and taking healthy choices. And of course, giving your body food and fuel that it actually needs. And then you have the physical training. So we are heart mental nutrition and physical training.
And after physical training, then we have the part that is more most magical. And that’s the meditation training. And for me, meditation training is about space, like the silence. The space to think and to just be and to get new ideas because there’s solely a little space. And also emptiness. We don’t renew ourselves. We are just living the same life again and again. And meditation is going to, the toilet. It’s empty yourself every day. Meditation is to have your closets tidy, but also some empty space there. It’s also to just be in silence and taking a shower, create space, and this is an element people don’t do, and that’s the second part with giving. It’s about letting go. Forgiveness, let go. Don’t hold on to things that you don’t need and don’t serve you. People, situations, thoughts and feelings, let go meditation and after meditation, then you have joy training and after filling yourself up with love and at least do three things every day that make you happy, then you, when you are full, what is the one thing that you want to do when you get some happy news?
For example, what is it?
[00:09:32] What do you do when you get happy news?
[00:09:32] Tony Winyard: Well, in my case,
[00:09:34] Helle Luxe: Yeah.
[00:09:35] Tony Winyard: What do I do when I get some happy news? Probably talk to some friends, I guess.
[00:09:39] Helle Luxe: Yeah. You share it
And that’s the joy. You share it with other people when you’re filling yourself and you fill yourself up
[00:09:46] Tony Winyard: Hmm.
[00:09:46] Helle Luxe: and that takes you to the last seventh pillar. And it’s giving forward it’s contribution. So to sum it up, you have give to yourself, and then you have give to others, and you have forgive, and that’s the cycles.
[00:10:01] Tony Winyard: Okay.
[00:10:01] Helle Luxe: That’s the essence. And you have the seven pillars, the seven tools that you can look at and see maybe I should prioritize to eat a little healthier this week, or maybe I actually need to sleep and meditate more this week. And it’s kind of finding a balance between those seven and making sure that what you need right now and in the long run is prioritized.
[00:10:25] Being comfortable with silence
[00:10:25] Tony Winyard: It’s fascinating. I like it when you were describing silence. And I wonder, I don’t know the situa, ’cause I haven’t been in Norway a long time, but I obviously I know England much better and I know English people much better. And I think people in England often are not comfortable with silence.
So I wonder what the situation is with many of the clients that you work with.
[00:10:53] Helle Luxe: If they’re comfortable with silence,
[00:10:54] Tony Winyard: Hmm.
[00:10:55] Helle Luxe: I think none of us are.
To
be honest that’s why we avoid it and that’s why we also are having a lot of health problems. I think at least, I mean, mental health problems because we are never turning off, we are never given the chance to reflect and process emotions and feelings and thoughts because we are always on.
To turn off, you know, go inside. So that’s why I used also the word meditation, because basically to sit down and close your eyes is a way of meditating, but it can be good or even better to just go for a walk in nature. And when you first open that box, and again, back to Singapore, there’s no little meditation there. There’s not much space. It’s a beautiful country, but it’s, if you don’t have the chaos is also a kind of meditation because you need space to have chaos and also to have fun. And also if you’re thinking in a relationship, intimacy relationship, you need to have space for communication.
Are you listening? Are you talking and is there any space there to just let it be something new?
Created. So no, people don’t like it. Me neither that much because it’s so much easier to just turn on my cell phone and watch Instagram or whatever. But I need it and I use it a lot, especially in my life Now I’m doing it far more than I’m comfortable with, but I’m noticing that it’s very well, very good for me.
[00:12:34] How did these 7 elements come together?
[00:12:34] Tony Winyard: So how did these seven elements come together? I mean, and how, I think you mentioned before 20 years. I’m just wondering the process, how this all came about.
[00:12:48] Helle Luxe: Well, yeah. 20 years ago I was 19 years old, and I started as a personal trainer and it was physical workouts and also nutrition. You were hap, you were lucky in Norway if you got the nutrition program. And I just realized in my own life, of course but also with my clients, that it wasn’t enough that people can go on a diet for three weeks or they can have a workout program, but it’s it’s not enough.
They will stop, or it won’t give them the results that the result they want. In the long run, people are hungry often because they are not eating enough and then they’re eating too little. That’s about giving to yourself. You know, eating is a way of nourishing yourself, and it just didn’t take them forward or myself, and I just noticed that the different tools that I’m share with you now, they are essential to move forward.
So, With the heart training, as I said, it came last because I thought I was good at giving myself love. But it’s about how good you are of giving yourself compliments. Are you talking to yourself with kind words? Are you accepting that you are in pain and also giving yourself that extra love when you need it?
And also maybe say no to other people because you need to prioritize yourself. And most people are very good at giving to others. At the same time, they’re so lousy at giving to others because they’re giving from an empty station. So you have the bitches, I’m sorry, but women in their thirties and forties, they have a lot of, not a lot of children, but often one or two.
[00:14:31] Hard working mums not giving themselves love
[00:14:31] Helle Luxe: And they are working so hard of being great mums and at work and also partners, but they are also not giving to themselves and that results very often in them. Yelling or acting in a very negative way, like being those women you don’t wanna be. But at the same time, it’s just because they are exhausted and not started by giving themselves love enough, at least. So that’s, I saw that it was not enough to eat a smoothie or do some abs workout. You needed to go home and just relax and just take a bath. You have the heart, you have the mental training or mental training. Where did that come about? Well, look at the world right now. If you don’t wake up and have a very clear mission of what you want and where you’re going, you will be taken everywhere or nowhere. It depends on which webpage you choose to log into. My kids are writing in a book every day. Here’s my son. My one son and he’s writing what he’s grateful for. Of course, I’m teaching my son, my sons, how to nourish themselves. So he writes about 10, no three things. He are grateful for heart training and three goals for the day, mental training, and that’s just to help him to have focus.
[00:15:52] If you don’t programme your kids, society will
[00:15:52] Helle Luxe: It’s not, if I’m not programming my kids, then the society will, or the webpages, so you choose. So I choose to program my kids and that, and they are choosing what they’re writing, but still it’s me asking them to do that. And after mental training, yes, you have the nutrition and the workout, and then you have to let go.
It’s just it makes, it’s very logical. If you have a vase on your table and you want a new vase, you need to remove that other vase first. It has to be some space for something new. So we are filling up with food and drinks and social media and activities and work, and it’s just it has to go somewhere.
And when people aren’t sleeping well, maybe it’s because you haven’t had some time to just let go and reflect on what’s happening in your life. Life. So, that part was magical. I actually found that part last May or April in New York. In New York, I’d been there for two or three days. My boyfriend were out.
I was in this beautiful hotel room and I was just looking out of all on all the lights and all the noise and I was thinking, what are we lacking? And it was space and it was silence it just came to me. We need that. And it was at that moment I had also the forgiveness part of the giving. Give to yourself, give to others, and forgive, let go, meditate. Yeah. And then you have, yeah, the joy giving because I will just say it’s all about joy. We just want to have a good time in life basically. And if you don’t fill yourself up with joy, you’re actually very selfish. And that’s why I saying we are good at giving, but we are lousy at giving. You are not a good person.
I said it this bit low. This is a typical thing I can say. If you’re not giving to yourself first because you’re giving from an empty station, and the more you’re giving to yourself, the more you have to give and you give because it’s natural, because you’re so happy, and then you give to other people.
And it’s all about giving because we are to contribute. Life is what’s good and what’s grows. So that’s why you have the giving at the top seven after all the other six steps because when it’s all comes to it, it’s about giving. Yourself and then give to others because that’s the only thing you can do.
You need to pass it on, and that’s how it flows till the we day, we die and move forward in some other way. Universe, I don’t know.
[00:18:36] Is the lack of giving to themselves related to the chronic diseases women get?
[00:18:36] Tony Winyard: You mentioned there about women in their I think you said twenties and thirties about they don’t give to themselves much and I wondered as you were saying that about there’s people like Gabor Maté and various other people talk about how typically, or I mean they’re generalizing that women have a lot more stress than men do and suffer from many more conditions related to stress.
Do you think that’s related to that they’re not giving themselves enough?
[00:19:06] Helle Luxe: Yeah. definitely. I think we are raised as children very early on to be good girls, and we are, most women are hardworking and focused, or at least they’re hardworking. And we are kind of trained to take care of other people. And again, we are mums we are supposed to be biologically so, but we, my mum never told me how to take care of myself. And that’s what I meant by also going into the darkness because yeah, I think it’s now six years ago, or five, I just had this moment, one Sunday where I was risking losing everything in my life and I realized that the love I had wasn’t real. The one the father of my children. I was almost losing my children.
I was losing my health. I was losing my house. I was losing my money. I losing my family if I didn’t. Go to the light, or at least get up and do the job I had to do. And what I realized in that moment, and it made me cry like a hurt animal in my living room, and it was just this one thought that I hadn’t taken care of myself. I was 30 years old and I realized I haven’t taken care of myself. Taking care of yourself is to trust in yourself. Eating what you need to eat that makes you feel good. Work out your body, taking your own choices and not relying on your partner no matter how good your relationship is, but trust yourself, and go through life by being the person you want to be. So, I learned it the hard way and I got up and I did the work and I wouldn’t recommend it for anyone. And that’s why also I’m so passionate about these seven pillars and the tools because it’s not necessary to go through what I did to learn and to shine more in your life. Because I kind of used my 20 years now and I have one recipe that I believe will help many more people than they are, than that already is being helped And Yeah, it’s a strategy and if you don’t have a strategy to shine more, I suggest you try to find one, and I have one if you’re interested.
That’s kind of my mission,
[00:21:47] What do you mean by “Shine”?
[00:21:47] Tony Winyard: When you say to shine more, what? What do you mean by that?
[00:21:50] Helle Luxe: to just be joyful, full of love, enjoying life and have a lot to give. And you know when you come into a room and you see this person and you don’t know what it is about that person, it’s just peaceful, full of energy. Love that kind of person to be a person that you really love, that you are the one you want to be. And people are often like, I want to have this kind of partner and this kind of house, or, but it starts with you. Like, how are you as a person? Are you that kind of person? The person you want will be attracted of. And I will use one example because we all care about love. We all want big love in our lives, and that’s also to shine, to have big love, to be in love.
To be in love is a state, peaceful, joyful state. And to be in love with the person that’s just a manifestation of that, in a sense between another person and you. So, I lost love. I don’t know if it even was that big love. I think it was pretty small, but of course, I, as other people wanted big love, so.
In my mental training, this is a step for me to get it into my seven pillars. I was very inspired by Bob Proctor. I will say that he’s one of my mentors and I started to writing down what I wanted. I’m so happy and grateful now that I am in a healthy, loving, passionate relationship and I brought everything that I wanted and note every day. I wrote it as if I had it, and I wrote every day for three months. And during that time I didn’t go online, the apps, Tinder dating apps, but I went into the app after three month and the next day I decided to, I noticed that I didn’t look at the same guys that I did earlier and I also just let the guys say hello to me.
I didn’t bother to say hi. I was like, okay, say hi. I will be in. I’m not mean or anything. I just wait for you to say hi. And the next day he said, hi. I met him three days later. It’s big love, and I’ve had him in my life with three bonus children for one and a half year. And it just, and it was what I asked for, it was, I got what I focused on, what I’ve been telling myself for three months, not something on YouTube, but what I have decided.
[00:24:33] At school we’re taught English, maths, history, but not love!
[00:24:33] Tony Winyard: When we go to school, we are taught science. We are taught mathematics, we’re taught languages and stuff, but we’re, we are never taught love.
[00:24:48] Helle Luxe: We are not taught. We are not taught to take care of yourself.
[00:24:53] Tony Winyard: Yeah. It’s strange in a way, isn’t it? Because it’s the it’s so important to, to, not just to life but as you say, to enjoy life to help others in your life. And it’s so much more important than many of the subjects that we do learn at school.
[00:25:17] Helle Luxe: Yeah. And and I think it’s sad because. I thought it was enough for me, me to just go to school, get a job and find me a man and get married and I would be happy. And I get the impression that a lot of women in Norway especially have the same view. They want to have a great job, but they think that’s enough.
And in a way they haven’t even started because joy is in hard work. Of course. And But you don’t have the tools. How do you know that you’re a great girlfriend or boyfriend? How, what’s your standards? And if you look at your parents, not many parents know either. So it’s should I blame my mom or my dad?
And I wouldn’t do that because they didn’t know. So when I woke up five, six years ago and realized this, I was like, okay, it’s time to grow up. It’s time to be the person that I want to be and have to be. And in a sense, we are just a product of our parents till the day we decide to be the one we want to be. So this is about the seven pillars and let’s shine. It’s about being, coming the person you want to be, not who you are, programmed by your parents. Yeah.
[00:26:42] Asking questions is meditative!
[00:26:42] Tony Winyard: Yeah, and it’s interesting you used the word programmed and in my mind I’ve been thinking as you’ve been talking, it’s about, you know, we conditioned, we are conditioned into expecting and expecting certain things for our life. And we often don’t question those things because we’ve just known them since, you know, since we learned to speak.
And so that is what is normal to us, and we don’t often. I think it’s only in the last decade or so, there’s many things about my life that I’ve really started to question and now I look at things very differently.
[00:27:13] Helle Luxe: And it’s interesting that you say that because asking questions is meditation
[00:27:18] Tony Winyard: Right?
[00:27:19] Helle Luxe: because you’re creating space to ask a question, why are you angry? What are you feeling now? Instead of being just frustrated over personally reacting in a way that you don’t like.
[00:27:31] Tony Winyard: Yeah.
[00:27:33] Helle Luxe: And I think we, unconsciously, we know some tools and that’s why we are teaching our kids to say thank you.
[00:27:40] Tony Winyard: All right.
[00:27:41] Helle Luxe: If we really dive into the value of saying thank you in heart training, it’s gratefulness is the easiest way to be happy. That’s why I tell my kids every day to write it down and we always just say thank you because every time you say thank you, you’re sending out this vibration. You will get love in return and you also feel joy.
But most people just think. Let’s be polite. Say thank you when you get something. And that’s true. But my kids, I’m teaching them happiness and also more depth of every tools they’re getting. Like you look for people, you can help give money because if you’re giving, you will get in return. Not necessarily from that person, but it’s about energy also just.
Not like physics. What you’re sending out, you will get in the return someone, some people believe in karma, and karma is just, again, if you’re a negative, you will get negative response. If you’re thinking negative thoughts it’s not like a belief, it’s just energy.
[00:28:47] Tony Winyard: Yeah.
[00:28:48] Helle Luxe: It’s just energy.
[00:28:50] What are the reasons people work with you?
[00:28:50] Tony Winyard: What, so the people that you are working with, I’m wondering, do you, what do you think are the reasons why they come to you in the first place?
[00:29:00] Helle Luxe: They often start by wanting to get in shape. Some people are still there, and I help them with that. I’m good at getting people in shape, but it’s always more. But we are not trained to see that. I feel like my work or my profession is new that people a coach I’m not very fond of that work coach.
That’s why I like advisor better, but they’re not trained of thinking okay, so I need to learn how to earn money. And then you learn that. But I need to learn how to have a better life. People don’t have that awareness. So people are still coming for pains, but also more and more people. Some women woman called me and said, Helle, I need you.
I’ve gone through all this big drama in my life and I just need to find myself again. Get the tools, get the energy back. So some people have worked with me earlier but I think there’s still very few people. Understand the value of investing in themselves. What I’m giving is kind of an education, just like you said, because we are all uneducated, a lot of us, at least in taking care of our ourselves, and that is probably the best investment you can do because it’ll benefit anyone you meet and especially your kids. So for me to see how this just moves forward To the next generation and also to the people and their kids. It’s very, of course, it’s very inspiration giving me a lot of motivation. It’s very, giving me a lot of peace
[00:30:51] Do you work internationally?
[00:30:51] Tony Winyard: And is it, are you just working with people locally or nationally or around the world as well?
[00:30:57] Helle Luxe: around the world. And of course it’s not only women, but 80, 20%.
[00:31:01] Tony Winyard: All.
[00:31:03] Helle Luxe: and I think also that’s, Normal. I’m a woman. I mean, biological this is my, this is, it’s easier for me to understand a woman and also what we are going through. So I’m not going to pretend that I will be the best for a guy like a guider, a guidance.
But of course, I have men that love to be guided by me in and we are doing physical training or mental training, and it can be in Singapore or it can be in US or England, but mostly it’s women.
[00:31:35] Tony Winyard: And are you, I’m wondering, so how do they find you then?
[00:31:40] Helle Luxe: Just it’s let shine by Helle Luxe, it’s so, it’s again very important for me to focus on the Let Shining. It’s not about me, but of course my name is Helle Luxe, so if you want to find my tools, it’s Let shine by Helle Luxe on the different platforms.
[00:31:59] Tony Winyard: So I’m wondering, it’s not so much, okay, you’ve got a website and that can be found, but more how do they, like what is
[00:32:07] Helle Luxe: Yeah, sorry. Yeah. And that’s the online platform. So I do have a online platform where people can get the tools directly, and it’s not expensive. I mean, it’s $19 month. Yeah, $19 and you will get all my workout programs that you can follow, and you can also get personal follow ups and test yourselves and your results. So yeah, I have this online platform and I create made it so it’s easy for people to use and you can use it wherever you are and you don’t need any tools to use it. And then you have, of course, for those who want to work with me individually and more one-to-one, that’s another. That’s more exclusive.
Yeah.
[00:32:57] What is the secret word to shine more?
[00:32:57] Tony Winyard: When I was looking through some information on your website and I was intrigued by one thing about what is the secret word to shine more in your life.
[00:33:08] Helle Luxe: Do you have a, do you want to guess after our talk?
[00:33:13] Tony Winyard: Well, I’m thinking it’s, it is probably give, but maybe it’s joy.
[00:33:17] Helle Luxe: No, it’s give. Yeah, but give gives joy. But it’s give. Yeah.
That’s the one thing after this talk is give and start by giving to yourself, but don’t foolish yourself to think that giving to others is the solution. But if you’re not giving to yourself first, it’ll be from an empty station and it’s not joyful in the same way.
And that’s when we are risking becoming those persons. We don’t wanna be. Remember to let go. Forgive the third part, and that’s why I’m having three hearts around my neck. Love for myself, love to others, and let go.
[00:33:55] Tony Winyard: Okay. Gonna change the the subject and a question I primed you with earlier and you didn’t have an answer at the time, so I’m wondering if you
[00:34:05] Helle Luxe: Ah.
Ah.
[00:34:07] Tony Winyard: I ask everyone this question, and I find it fascinating because some of the, I always ask people, is there a book that’s moved you at any time in your life?
I’ve discovered some fascinating books by asking people this question.
[00:34:21] A book that moved Helle
[00:34:21] Helle Luxe: Well, you were right. I have one book that I didn’t have before we started this chat. And it’s the secret. When I read it, I was a teenager and it gave me this hope that everything was possible. I don’t remember all the things in that book. I only read it once or twice, but I feel like what was lacking or also what I’ve been told from people that have talked about that book was the understanding of the work and the mental focus.
Everything is possible. You can imagine things, but it’s more like having a vision. And then it’s very important to take the steps to get it, and don’t expect just to sit there and get it without giving. Yeah.
[00:35:28] How to get in contact with Helle
[00:35:28] Tony Winyard: So you, you mentioned just now about your
[00:35:32] Helle Luxe: https://www.letsshine.no
[00:35:34] Tony Winyard: So if people wanna find about more about you, they should go there.
And then you are on various platforms, on Facebook, on LinkedIn and so on, and all of those will obviously be in the show notes. Which platforms do you prefer to use the most? Oh,
[00:35:51] Helle Luxe: good question. Again I should say Instagram I mean, I’m on different platforms, but for me it’s more like I. I prefer to communicate. So if people want to ask me a question, ask me a question. It’s more like that for me. It’s send me an email or send me a message on Facebook or on Instagram and I will respond. I don’t have any favorite in that sense, but I do like to communicate by talking and it’s like having this talk with you now is something I will do more of.
I haven’t done it in the past, but I’m Ready to get the Northern Light out there. So yeah.
[00:36:41] You’re starting a podcast soon?
[00:36:41] Tony Winyard: And you are starting a podcast soon, aren’t you?
[00:36:45] Helle Luxe: Yeah, I have tested it once. It was fun. And so I won’t send people to my podcast yet. You will find it, but it’s only one episode. It will tell you where, yeah, it will tell me, tell you a little more about me, but yeah. I will stick to attending other podcasts for now and give by doing that and hopefully yeah.
[00:37:11] Favourite quote
[00:37:11] Tony Winyard: Well, we always finish the episode with if you’ve got a favorite quote and why you like that quote.
[00:37:21] Helle Luxe: Yes, that’s a easy question. Thank you. My favorite quote is, take care to care. Basically it means give to yourself before you give to others. Like you’re putting on your oxygen mask in the airplane before you’re putting on others. So if you want to shine, if you want to really care about other people, you need to start caring about yourself first every day.
And then you really feel the urge to give more and feel more joyful.
[00:37:55] Tony Winyard: Well, Helle, I love your approach. It’s very different, I can see how this will work for people. So yeah, well continue with the great work you’re doing and it was a pleasure to speak with you. Thank you.
[00:38:06] Helle Luxe: Thank you, Tony. It was great to be. Thank you so much.
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241 – Helle Luxe
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Welcome to a luminous episode of The Art of Living Proactively. I’m your host, Tony Winyard shining a spotlight today on the radiant Helle Luxe. Join us as Helle illuminates her journey from darkness to light and shares her seven pillars of joyful living. And we learn how this beam of sunshine from Norway found her inner glow after major turmoil, nearly eclipsed her world.
Let her shining spirit inspire you to glow from within. Her insights on self-care, meditation, forgiveness and spreading joy are definitely ones not to be missed, and be sure to hit subscribe for more lit up episodes across your favorite podcast platforms or on YouTube. Then do leave us a shining review. I read each one and, if you could share this episode to spread the light, that would be really helpful So now let’s bask in the glow of the one and only Helle Luxe.
[00:01:09] Intro
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[00:01:09] Tony Winyard: Welcome to another edition of The Art of Living Proactively podcast, my guest today. and this is the first time we’ve had a Norwegian on the show, it’s, Helle Luxe
[00:01:21] Helle Luxe: yeah. Beautiful. Thank you. Nice to meet you Tony.
[00:01:27] Tony Winyard: We were talking just before we started recording. I lived in Norway for 18 months. Love Norway. It’s a fabulous country. mean, So you are from just outside Oslo did you say?
[00:01:36] Helle Luxe: 20 minutes outside a half island called. So I actually took the boat every day to Oslo, so that was kind of charming. But yeah, I’m a Oslo girl in my heart, basically.
[00:01:48] Tony Winyard: So for anyone listening who maybe has not visited Norway, maybe give them a couple of reasons why they should consider visiting Norway.
[00:01:56] Helle Luxe: Yeah, I thought about it earlier when people are saying, oh, Norway is so beautiful. And I’m like yeah. And then I went to Singapore and I went to, it was this beautiful country too, and I realized that what Norway has, like Singapore is the cleanest, beautiful nature. But we also have the wildness that, for example, Singapore is lacking.
So you have these beautiful mountains the water and this peace, and we have the darkness and we have the light
That mixture of winter and summer and spring and autumn. It’s not that easy to find. Again, in Singapore, it’s the same temperature every day, but here in Norway it’s always changing.
Kind of on a journey by just living here basically.
[00:02:48] Tony Winyard: And you just mentioned lights
[00:02:52] Helle Luxe: Yeah.
[00:02:52] The connection with your name and light?
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[00:02:52] Tony Winyard: and with your name. So maybe tell me the connection between light and your name.
[00:02:58] Helle Luxe: Let’s my name is Helle and it means holy and I went to, through this big darkness a couple of years ago, and in that darkness I found the essence of light. And in the essence of light, I decided to change my name to Luxe. but I. I thought that holy light would be very beautiful. So I applied, and now I’m the only one in Norway beside of my kids that are named Luxe. But what happened after I got my name was that I, by coincidence, in a dream. In that kind of meditation dream was told just in my mind that, but your name the same as you always.
The new name is the same that you’ve always been called. And of course, I Googled it, woke up and Googled and it said Helle means a light. So like light the goal is to shine. And that’s why I’m here to hopefully give some inspiration and tools to how people can shine more. And as I said I come from deep darkness in, in life, so, Hopefully I can help people to shine more without needing to go into the dark.
[00:04:32] You help women around the world?
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[00:04:32] Tony Winyard: Love the description. So I know that you are a lifestyle advisor, speaker, author, you’re helping women all around the world. So maybe expand on that a little. So for anyone who doesn’t know you,
[00:04:45] Helle Luxe: Yeah. It’s called Lets Shine. That’s my studio online and also in Oslo, I had it for 15 years, and it’s basically training, nutrition, lifestyle, and training and nutrition is, both of them are very essential. We all know we need to take care of our body and we all know that we need to eat healthy. So these tools have been kind of the essential parts in the beginning, but I always knew that lifestyle was important.
And if you think about it in lifestyle, that’s where the magic is because there you have mental strength. There you have meditation training, there you have joy trainings, as I call it, and you have heart training, and there’s one more thing. Yeah, give training. So in lifestyle, there’s the tools you need and most people forget. Because they think it’s enough to work out two or three times per week, physically. But I believe that to shine on a regular basis and to elevate yourself to try more. You need to be able to work out seven aspects, as I just mentioned, seven pillars. So, that’s what I do. I look at what people need or they tell me or they show me. And for example, a woman that is very exhausted after working a lot, I won’t start by sending her to the gym. That makes no sense, but most people or very often think that I need to work out more. That will be the solution, but very seldom it is for the long run.
[00:06:24] Tony Winyard: Right.
[00:06:24] Helle Luxe: So, yeah.
[00:06:26] Tell us about the 7 pillars
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[00:06:26] Tony Winyard: So it’ll be interesting to hear more about all seven of those pillars. And the two that I’m particularly interested in are join and give. They sound fascinating. So yeah tell us more about the seven pillars.
[00:06:38] Helle Luxe: Well, the cliche is that I actually found the first pillar. In the end, last year. Last year, it took me 20 years to find these seven pillars. And the first pillar is heart training. It starts with the heart. And this is the first thing people, and that people don’t do this. It’s about giving yourself love.
[00:07:01] Tony Winyard: All
[00:07:02] Helle Luxe: And it, again, so cliche, but if you don’t give to yourself, you have nothing to give. And there you have the give part. So it starts by giving. And after heart training, then you have mental training. We are not at the physical. We are still at now. We are at the mind. You need to feed your mind, so you need to strengthen your mental strength need to be strengthened.
And then you have nutrition training. I call it training because it’s also about the relationship you have with food,
[00:07:34] Tony Winyard: Okay.
[00:07:35] Meditation training
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[00:07:35] Helle Luxe: the balance between enjoying and taking healthy choices. And of course, giving your body food and fuel that it actually needs. And then you have the physical training. So we are heart mental nutrition and physical training.
And after physical training, then we have the part that is more most magical. And that’s the meditation training. And for me, meditation training is about space, like the silence. The space to think and to just be and to get new ideas because there’s solely a little space. And also emptiness. We don’t renew ourselves. We are just living the same life again and again. And meditation is going to, the toilet. It’s empty yourself every day. Meditation is to have your closets tidy, but also some empty space there. It’s also to just be in silence and taking a shower, create space, and this is an element people don’t do, and that’s the second part with giving. It’s about letting go. Forgiveness, let go. Don’t hold on to things that you don’t need and don’t serve you. People, situations, thoughts and feelings, let go meditation and after meditation, then you have joy training and after filling yourself up with love and at least do three things every day that make you happy, then you, when you are full, what is the one thing that you want to do when you get some happy news?
For example, what is it?
[00:09:32] What do you do when you get happy news?
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[00:09:32] Tony Winyard: Well, in my case,
[00:09:34] Helle Luxe: Yeah.
[00:09:35] Tony Winyard: What do I do when I get some happy news? Probably talk to some friends, I guess.
[00:09:39] Helle Luxe: Yeah. You share it
And that’s the joy. You share it with other people when you’re filling yourself and you fill yourself up
[00:09:46] Tony Winyard: Hmm.
[00:09:46] Helle Luxe: and that takes you to the last seventh pillar. And it’s giving forward it’s contribution. So to sum it up, you have give to yourself, and then you have give to others, and you have forgive, and that’s the cycles.
[00:10:01] Tony Winyard: Okay.
[00:10:01] Helle Luxe: That’s the essence. And you have the seven pillars, the seven tools that you can look at and see maybe I should prioritize to eat a little healthier this week, or maybe I actually need to sleep and meditate more this week. And it’s kind of finding a balance between those seven and making sure that what you need right now and in the long run is prioritized.
[00:10:25] Being comfortable with silence
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[00:10:25] Tony Winyard: It’s fascinating. I like it when you were describing silence. And I wonder, I don’t know the situa, ’cause I haven’t been in Norway a long time, but I obviously I know England much better and I know English people much better. And I think people in England often are not comfortable with silence.
So I wonder what the situation is with many of the clients that you work with.
[00:10:53] Helle Luxe: If they’re comfortable with silence,
[00:10:54] Tony Winyard: Hmm.
[00:10:55] Helle Luxe: I think none of us are.
To
be honest that’s why we avoid it and that’s why we also are having a lot of health problems. I think at least, I mean, mental health problems because we are never turning off, we are never given the chance to reflect and process emotions and feelings and thoughts because we are always on.
To turn off, you know, go inside. So that’s why I used also the word meditation, because basically to sit down and close your eyes is a way of meditating, but it can be good or even better to just go for a walk in nature. And when you first open that box, and again, back to Singapore, there’s no little meditation there. There’s not much space. It’s a beautiful country, but it’s, if you don’t have the chaos is also a kind of meditation because you need space to have chaos and also to have fun. And also if you’re thinking in a relationship, intimacy relationship, you need to have space for communication.
Are you listening? Are you talking and is there any space there to just let it be something new?
Created. So no, people don’t like it. Me neither that much because it’s so much easier to just turn on my cell phone and watch Instagram or whatever. But I need it and I use it a lot, especially in my life Now I’m doing it far more than I’m comfortable with, but I’m noticing that it’s very well, very good for me.
[00:12:34] How did these 7 elements come together?
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[00:12:34] Tony Winyard: So how did these seven elements come together? I mean, and how, I think you mentioned before 20 years. I’m just wondering the process, how this all came about.
[00:12:48] Helle Luxe: Well, yeah. 20 years ago I was 19 years old, and I started as a personal trainer and it was physical workouts and also nutrition. You were hap, you were lucky in Norway if you got the nutrition program. And I just realized in my own life, of course but also with my clients, that it wasn’t enough that people can go on a diet for three weeks or they can have a workout program, but it’s it’s not enough.
They will stop, or it won’t give them the results that the result they want. In the long run, people are hungry often because they are not eating enough and then they’re eating too little. That’s about giving to yourself. You know, eating is a way of nourishing yourself, and it just didn’t take them forward or myself, and I just noticed that the different tools that I’m share with you now, they are essential to move forward.
So, With the heart training, as I said, it came last because I thought I was good at giving myself love. But it’s about how good you are of giving yourself compliments. Are you talking to yourself with kind words? Are you accepting that you are in pain and also giving yourself that extra love when you need it?
And also maybe say no to other people because you need to prioritize yourself. And most people are very good at giving to others. At the same time, they’re so lousy at giving to others because they’re giving from an empty station. So you have the bitches, I’m sorry, but women in their thirties and forties, they have a lot of, not a lot of children, but often one or two.
[00:14:31] Hard working mums not giving themselves love
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[00:14:31] Helle Luxe: And they are working so hard of being great mums and at work and also partners, but they are also not giving to themselves and that results very often in them. Yelling or acting in a very negative way, like being those women you don’t wanna be. But at the same time, it’s just because they are exhausted and not started by giving themselves love enough, at least. So that’s, I saw that it was not enough to eat a smoothie or do some abs workout. You needed to go home and just relax and just take a bath. You have the heart, you have the mental training or mental training. Where did that come about? Well, look at the world right now. If you don’t wake up and have a very clear mission of what you want and where you’re going, you will be taken everywhere or nowhere. It depends on which webpage you choose to log into. My kids are writing in a book every day. Here’s my son. My one son and he’s writing what he’s grateful for. Of course, I’m teaching my son, my sons, how to nourish themselves. So he writes about 10, no three things. He are grateful for heart training and three goals for the day, mental training, and that’s just to help him to have focus.
[00:15:52] If you don’t programme your kids, society will
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[00:15:52] Helle Luxe: It’s not, if I’m not programming my kids, then the society will, or the webpages, so you choose. So I choose to program my kids and that, and they are choosing what they’re writing, but still it’s me asking them to do that. And after mental training, yes, you have the nutrition and the workout, and then you have to let go.
It’s just it makes, it’s very logical. If you have a vase on your table and you want a new vase, you need to remove that other vase first. It has to be some space for something new. So we are filling up with food and drinks and social media and activities and work, and it’s just it has to go somewhere.
And when people aren’t sleeping well, maybe it’s because you haven’t had some time to just let go and reflect on what’s happening in your life. Life. So, that part was magical. I actually found that part last May or April in New York. In New York, I’d been there for two or three days. My boyfriend were out.
I was in this beautiful hotel room and I was just looking out of all on all the lights and all the noise and I was thinking, what are we lacking? And it was space and it was silence it just came to me. We need that. And it was at that moment I had also the forgiveness part of the giving. Give to yourself, give to others, and forgive, let go, meditate. Yeah. And then you have, yeah, the joy giving because I will just say it’s all about joy. We just want to have a good time in life basically. And if you don’t fill yourself up with joy, you’re actually very selfish. And that’s why I saying we are good at giving, but we are lousy at giving. You are not a good person.
I said it this bit low. This is a typical thing I can say. If you’re not giving to yourself first because you’re giving from an empty station, and the more you’re giving to yourself, the more you have to give and you give because it’s natural, because you’re so happy, and then you give to other people.
And it’s all about giving because we are to contribute. Life is what’s good and what’s grows. So that’s why you have the giving at the top seven after all the other six steps because when it’s all comes to it, it’s about giving. Yourself and then give to others because that’s the only thing you can do.
You need to pass it on, and that’s how it flows till the we day, we die and move forward in some other way. Universe, I don’t know.
[00:18:36] Is the lack of giving to themselves related to the chronic diseases women get?
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[00:18:36] Tony Winyard: You mentioned there about women in their I think you said twenties and thirties about they don’t give to themselves much and I wondered as you were saying that about there’s people like Gabor Maté and various other people talk about how typically, or I mean they’re generalizing that women have a lot more stress than men do and suffer from many more conditions related to stress.
Do you think that’s related to that they’re not giving themselves enough?
[00:19:06] Helle Luxe: Yeah. definitely. I think we are raised as children very early on to be good girls, and we are, most women are hardworking and focused, or at least they’re hardworking. And we are kind of trained to take care of other people. And again, we are mums we are supposed to be biologically so, but we, my mum never told me how to take care of myself. And that’s what I meant by also going into the darkness because yeah, I think it’s now six years ago, or five, I just had this moment, one Sunday where I was risking losing everything in my life and I realized that the love I had wasn’t real. The one the father of my children. I was almost losing my children.
I was losing my health. I was losing my house. I was losing my money. I losing my family if I didn’t. Go to the light, or at least get up and do the job I had to do. And what I realized in that moment, and it made me cry like a hurt animal in my living room, and it was just this one thought that I hadn’t taken care of myself. I was 30 years old and I realized I haven’t taken care of myself. Taking care of yourself is to trust in yourself. Eating what you need to eat that makes you feel good. Work out your body, taking your own choices and not relying on your partner no matter how good your relationship is, but trust yourself, and go through life by being the person you want to be. So, I learned it the hard way and I got up and I did the work and I wouldn’t recommend it for anyone. And that’s why also I’m so passionate about these seven pillars and the tools because it’s not necessary to go through what I did to learn and to shine more in your life. Because I kind of used my 20 years now and I have one recipe that I believe will help many more people than they are, than that already is being helped And Yeah, it’s a strategy and if you don’t have a strategy to shine more, I suggest you try to find one, and I have one if you’re interested.
That’s kind of my mission,
[00:21:47] What do you mean by "Shine"?
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[00:21:47] Tony Winyard: When you say to shine more, what? What do you mean by that?
[00:21:50] Helle Luxe: to just be joyful, full of love, enjoying life and have a lot to give. And you know when you come into a room and you see this person and you don’t know what it is about that person, it’s just peaceful, full of energy. Love that kind of person to be a person that you really love, that you are the one you want to be. And people are often like, I want to have this kind of partner and this kind of house, or, but it starts with you. Like, how are you as a person? Are you that kind of person? The person you want will be attracted of. And I will use one example because we all care about love. We all want big love in our lives, and that’s also to shine, to have big love, to be in love.
To be in love is a state, peaceful, joyful state. And to be in love with the person that’s just a manifestation of that, in a sense between another person and you. So, I lost love. I don’t know if it even was that big love. I think it was pretty small, but of course, I, as other people wanted big love, so.
In my mental training, this is a step for me to get it into my seven pillars. I was very inspired by Bob Proctor. I will say that he’s one of my mentors and I started to writing down what I wanted. I’m so happy and grateful now that I am in a healthy, loving, passionate relationship and I brought everything that I wanted and note every day. I wrote it as if I had it, and I wrote every day for three months. And during that time I didn’t go online, the apps, Tinder dating apps, but I went into the app after three month and the next day I decided to, I noticed that I didn’t look at the same guys that I did earlier and I also just let the guys say hello to me.
I didn’t bother to say hi. I was like, okay, say hi. I will be in. I’m not mean or anything. I just wait for you to say hi. And the next day he said, hi. I met him three days later. It’s big love, and I’ve had him in my life with three bonus children for one and a half year. And it just, and it was what I asked for, it was, I got what I focused on, what I’ve been telling myself for three months, not something on YouTube, but what I have decided.
[00:24:33] At school we’re taught English, maths, history, but not love!
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[00:24:33] Tony Winyard: When we go to school, we are taught science. We are taught mathematics, we’re taught languages and stuff, but we’re, we are never taught love.
[00:24:48] Helle Luxe: We are not taught. We are not taught to take care of yourself.
[00:24:53] Tony Winyard: Yeah. It’s strange in a way, isn’t it? Because it’s the it’s so important to, to, not just to life but as you say, to enjoy life to help others in your life. And it’s so much more important than many of the subjects that we do learn at school.
[00:25:17] Helle Luxe: Yeah. And and I think it’s sad because. I thought it was enough for me, me to just go to school, get a job and find me a man and get married and I would be happy. And I get the impression that a lot of women in Norway especially have the same view. They want to have a great job, but they think that’s enough.
And in a way they haven’t even started because joy is in hard work. Of course. And But you don’t have the tools. How do you know that you’re a great girlfriend or boyfriend? How, what’s your standards? And if you look at your parents, not many parents know either. So it’s should I blame my mom or my dad?
And I wouldn’t do that because they didn’t know. So when I woke up five, six years ago and realized this, I was like, okay, it’s time to grow up. It’s time to be the person that I want to be and have to be. And in a sense, we are just a product of our parents till the day we decide to be the one we want to be. So this is about the seven pillars and let’s shine. It’s about being, coming the person you want to be, not who you are, programmed by your parents. Yeah.
[00:26:42] Asking questions is meditative!
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[00:26:42] Tony Winyard: Yeah, and it’s interesting you used the word programmed and in my mind I’ve been thinking as you’ve been talking, it’s about, you know, we conditioned, we are conditioned into expecting and expecting certain things for our life. And we often don’t question those things because we’ve just known them since, you know, since we learned to speak.
And so that is what is normal to us, and we don’t often. I think it’s only in the last decade or so, there’s many things about my life that I’ve really started to question and now I look at things very differently.
[00:27:13] Helle Luxe: And it’s interesting that you say that because asking questions is meditation
[00:27:18] Tony Winyard: Right?
[00:27:19] Helle Luxe: because you’re creating space to ask a question, why are you angry? What are you feeling now? Instead of being just frustrated over personally reacting in a way that you don’t like.
[00:27:31] Tony Winyard: Yeah.
[00:27:33] Helle Luxe: And I think we, unconsciously, we know some tools and that’s why we are teaching our kids to say thank you.
[00:27:40] Tony Winyard: All right.
[00:27:41] Helle Luxe: If we really dive into the value of saying thank you in heart training, it’s gratefulness is the easiest way to be happy. That’s why I tell my kids every day to write it down and we always just say thank you because every time you say thank you, you’re sending out this vibration. You will get love in return and you also feel joy.
But most people just think. Let’s be polite. Say thank you when you get something. And that’s true. But my kids, I’m teaching them happiness and also more depth of every tools they’re getting. Like you look for people, you can help give money because if you’re giving, you will get in return. Not necessarily from that person, but it’s about energy also just.
Not like physics. What you’re sending out, you will get in the return someone, some people believe in karma, and karma is just, again, if you’re a negative, you will get negative response. If you’re thinking negative thoughts it’s not like a belief, it’s just energy.
[00:28:47] Tony Winyard: Yeah.
[00:28:48] Helle Luxe: It’s just energy.
[00:28:50] What are the reasons people work with you?
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[00:28:50] Tony Winyard: What, so the people that you are working with, I’m wondering, do you, what do you think are the reasons why they come to you in the first place?
[00:29:00] Helle Luxe: They often start by wanting to get in shape. Some people are still there, and I help them with that. I’m good at getting people in shape, but it’s always more. But we are not trained to see that. I feel like my work or my profession is new that people a coach I’m not very fond of that work coach.
That’s why I like advisor better, but they’re not trained of thinking okay, so I need to learn how to earn money. And then you learn that. But I need to learn how to have a better life. People don’t have that awareness. So people are still coming for pains, but also more and more people. Some women woman called me and said, Helle, I need you.
I’ve gone through all this big drama in my life and I just need to find myself again. Get the tools, get the energy back. So some people have worked with me earlier but I think there’s still very few people. Understand the value of investing in themselves. What I’m giving is kind of an education, just like you said, because we are all uneducated, a lot of us, at least in taking care of our ourselves, and that is probably the best investment you can do because it’ll benefit anyone you meet and especially your kids. So for me to see how this just moves forward To the next generation and also to the people and their kids. It’s very, of course, it’s very inspiration giving me a lot of motivation. It’s very, giving me a lot of peace
[00:30:51] Do you work internationally?
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[00:30:51] Tony Winyard: And is it, are you just working with people locally or nationally or around the world as well?
[00:30:57] Helle Luxe: around the world. And of course it’s not only women, but 80, 20%.
[00:31:01] Tony Winyard: All.
[00:31:03] Helle Luxe: and I think also that’s, Normal. I’m a woman. I mean, biological this is my, this is, it’s easier for me to understand a woman and also what we are going through. So I’m not going to pretend that I will be the best for a guy like a guider, a guidance.
But of course, I have men that love to be guided by me in and we are doing physical training or mental training, and it can be in Singapore or it can be in US or England, but mostly it’s women.
[00:31:35] Tony Winyard: And are you, I’m wondering, so how do they find you then?
[00:31:40] Helle Luxe: Just it’s let shine by Helle Luxe, it’s so, it’s again very important for me to focus on the Let Shining. It’s not about me, but of course my name is Helle Luxe, so if you want to find my tools, it’s Let shine by Helle Luxe on the different platforms.
[00:31:59] Tony Winyard: So I’m wondering, it’s not so much, okay, you’ve got a website and that can be found, but more how do they, like what is
[00:32:07] Helle Luxe: Yeah, sorry. Yeah. And that’s the online platform. So I do have a online platform where people can get the tools directly, and it’s not expensive. I mean, it’s $19 month. Yeah, $19 and you will get all my workout programs that you can follow, and you can also get personal follow ups and test yourselves and your results. So yeah, I have this online platform and I create made it so it’s easy for people to use and you can use it wherever you are and you don’t need any tools to use it. And then you have, of course, for those who want to work with me individually and more one-to-one, that’s another. That’s more exclusive.
Yeah.
[00:32:57] What is the secret word to shine more?
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[00:32:57] Tony Winyard: When I was looking through some information on your website and I was intrigued by one thing about what is the secret word to shine more in your life.
[00:33:08] Helle Luxe: Do you have a, do you want to guess after our talk?
[00:33:13] Tony Winyard: Well, I’m thinking it’s, it is probably give, but maybe it’s joy.
[00:33:17] Helle Luxe: No, it’s give. Yeah, but give gives joy. But it’s give. Yeah.
That’s the one thing after this talk is give and start by giving to yourself, but don’t foolish yourself to think that giving to others is the solution. But if you’re not giving to yourself first, it’ll be from an empty station and it’s not joyful in the same way.
And that’s when we are risking becoming those persons. We don’t wanna be. Remember to let go. Forgive the third part, and that’s why I’m having three hearts around my neck. Love for myself, love to others, and let go.
[00:33:55] Tony Winyard: Okay. Gonna change the the subject and a question I primed you with earlier and you didn’t have an answer at the time, so I’m wondering if you
[00:34:05] Helle Luxe: Ah.
Ah.
[00:34:07] Tony Winyard: I ask everyone this question, and I find it fascinating because some of the, I always ask people, is there a book that’s moved you at any time in your life?
I’ve discovered some fascinating books by asking people this question.
[00:34:21] A book that moved Helle
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[00:34:21] Helle Luxe: Well, you were right. I have one book that I didn’t have before we started this chat. And it’s the secret. When I read it, I was a teenager and it gave me this hope that everything was possible. I don’t remember all the things in that book. I only read it once or twice, but I feel like what was lacking or also what I’ve been told from people that have talked about that book was the understanding of the work and the mental focus.
Everything is possible. You can imagine things, but it’s more like having a vision. And then it’s very important to take the steps to get it, and don’t expect just to sit there and get it without giving. Yeah.
[00:35:28] How to get in contact with Helle
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[00:35:28] Tony Winyard: So you, you mentioned just now about your
[00:35:32] Helle Luxe: https://www.letsshine.no
[00:35:34] Tony Winyard: So if people wanna find about more about you, they should go there.
And then you are on various platforms, on Facebook, on LinkedIn and so on, and all of those will obviously be in the show notes. Which platforms do you prefer to use the most? Oh,
[00:35:51] Helle Luxe: good question. Again I should say Instagram I mean, I’m on different platforms, but for me it’s more like I. I prefer to communicate. So if people want to ask me a question, ask me a question. It’s more like that for me. It’s send me an email or send me a message on Facebook or on Instagram and I will respond. I don’t have any favorite in that sense, but I do like to communicate by talking and it’s like having this talk with you now is something I will do more of.
I haven’t done it in the past, but I’m Ready to get the Northern Light out there. So yeah.
[00:36:41] You’re starting a podcast soon?
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[00:36:41] Tony Winyard: And you are starting a podcast soon, aren’t you?
[00:36:45] Helle Luxe: Yeah, I have tested it once. It was fun. And so I won’t send people to my podcast yet. You will find it, but it’s only one episode. It will tell you where, yeah, it will tell me, tell you a little more about me, but yeah. I will stick to attending other podcasts for now and give by doing that and hopefully yeah.
[00:37:11] Favourite quote
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[00:37:11] Tony Winyard: Well, we always finish the episode with if you’ve got a favorite quote and why you like that quote.
[00:37:21] Helle Luxe: Yes, that’s a easy question. Thank you. My favorite quote is, take care to care. Basically it means give to yourself before you give to others. Like you’re putting on your oxygen mask in the airplane before you’re putting on others. So if you want to shine, if you want to really care about other people, you need to start caring about yourself first every day.
And then you really feel the urge to give more and feel more joyful.
[00:37:55] Tony Winyard: Well, Helle, I love your approach. It’s very different, I can see how this will work for people. So yeah, well continue with the great work you’re doing and it was a pleasure to speak with you. Thank you.
[00:38:06] Helle Luxe: Thank you, Tony. It was great to be. Thank you so much.
[00:38:09] Next weeks episode
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